And that’s exactly what the narcissist knows and doesn’t want to happen. They want you hyperaroused, on edge, tiptoeing, tuned into them at all times. The moment they sense you are alone and unplugging from their energy, they panic. But instead of expressing that fear, they convert it into sabotage. Suddenly, there is a fake emergency: the children are screaming, they can’t find something.
That’s what they say. They cannot find something they never needed that’s the truth. The phone rings non-stop, or they start yelling accusations through the door. It’s chaos by design. Their goal is not to solve anything; it is to break your moment of stillness. Over time, this repeated stress during your most vulnerable moments can turn into a deep physiological, not just psychological physiological pattern.
Your body starts associating bathroom time with being under attack. You develop nervous anticipation every time you need to relieve yourself, and slowly, your natural functions begin to shut down. This is what I call digestive abuse, and I do not say that lightly. This is how I personally developed chronic constipation. I could no longer relax into the most basic bodily release without expecting intrusion or humiliation.
My body began holding everything in, including waste, because my mind had learned the toilet was not a safe place. That is how deep this conditioning goes. So, if you have struggled with chronic bloating, constipation, or IBS in a narcissistic household or relationship, now you know it’s not in your head. It’s literally in your nervous system.
Reason 2: Accusations of Cheating
Number two, they think you are cheating on them. Narcissists themselves will spend hours in the bathroom texting, sexting, grooming, recording videos, scrolling through dating apps, and obsessing over their looks. They will create a private little universe in that room, convinced they are entitled to disappear from reality for as long as they please. But the moment you take a little extra time in there, suddenly you are under suspicion. You are under the scanner. “Who are you texting? Why are you taking so long? What are you hiding?” These are the questions you will get asked, and they won’t be harmless.
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