Number 1: “I have never felt this way about anyone.”
At first, this sounds magical, doesn’t it? Rare and intimate, like you have cracked open their cold heart and discovered warmth. But that warmth is manufactured. It is not a reflection of you; it is a script they use on everyone who fits the profile of supply. They say it early, often before trust has been earned or depth has been explored, because they know that once you believe your connection with them is rare, you will fight to preserve it at any cost.
You will stay through disrespect, confuse pain with passion, and, most of all, you will tell yourself that if it is this real, it must be real. But what they mean is not that you are special; what they mean is that you are useful, for now. They haven’t fallen for you like you have; they have targeted you, and they need you to believe that what you have is unique, so you never dare walk away.
Number 2: “I love you; I’m just bad at showing it.”
This is where you start blaming yourself for not feeling loved. It is where you start twisting yourself into knots, trying to make things easier for them. You excuse the coldness, the neglect. You tell yourself, “Oh, love looks different for everyone.” But the truth is, someone who loves you does not confuse you. They do not punish you with silence. They do not withhold affection as a weapon to make you chase them harder.
You see, narcissists are not bad at love; they are selective with it. They know exactly how to give it when they want control and exactly how to withhold it when they want you to beg. It keeps you proving your worth, keeps you anxious, and that anxiety becomes the glue that bonds you to someone who has only ever loved your obedience and not your heart.
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