1. Therapy – A New Stage for Validation
When you see a narcissist in therapy, do not assume it’s because they have woken up to their damage. They have not. Therapy becomes their replacement stage. As I said, once their supply dries up, they walk into that office not to heal but to perform. They want someone to listen endlessly, to affirm their victim story, to nod along as they explain how everyone misunderstood them, abandoned them, or betrayed their brilliance.
They pressure therapists into reviving their false self, demanding sympathy while refusing accountability. If the therapist dares to reflect the truth back, the narcissist retaliates, mocking their credentials, attacking their intelligence, and trying to drag them down. Very few ever show real change. I do not know of even a single collapsed narcissist who went to therapy and showed real, consistent change.
These people treat therapy like a mirror that must reflect their greatness back to them, not a tool for growth. They want to vomit their story, not transform it. And unfortunately, unaware therapists just fall prey to their tactics because they play the same old game: silent treatment, passive aggression.
It becomes so toxic to deal with that, ultimately, the poor therapist has to end the relationship. This is why you will see most therapists do not work with narcissists, even those who are aware and say, “I would like to change.”
2. Social Services – Posing as Protectors
The older or semi-collapsed narcissist often finds their new supply in social services. They volunteer, fundraise, or campaign for causes that attract a lot of admiration. They pose as protectors of animals, champions of women, or defenders of children. They know the world will clap for anyone who holds a sign, rescues a dog, or raises money for a shelter.
On the surface, they look saintly: an old man raising money for domestic violence survivors, think about that, or an old woman photographed with rescued puppies. But beneath the banner, the same hunger is at work.
They feed off the admiration, manipulate volunteers, and siphon resources for themselves. The charity is not about the cause. It’s about their image. The collapsed narcissist turns social service into self-service.
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