Ever notice how they sleep unusually well after being out with “friends” or “working late”? It’s almost like they were completely drained from something, but not the thing they told you about. Cheating isn’t just emotional; it’s physical, and their body reacts accordingly.
They start napping at odd hours, right after they get home from a mysterious late-night “errand” or after a long shower. Why? Because when they’re asleep, they can’t be questioned. If you try to bring up concerns, they’ll just say, “Can we talk later? I’m too tired right now.” And later never comes.
Some narcissists take it even further. They start claiming health problems, blaming their exhaustion on stress, low iron, or hormonal imbalances. While health issues are real, let’s be honest: do they suddenly feel better when they want to go out alone? If their energy levels conveniently rise and fall based on their freedom to cheat, it’s no accident.
The Gaslighting Through Sleep Tactic: Making You Feel Like the Villain
They turn the blame on you for noticing their behavior: “Why are you mad that I’m tired? Do you even care about my health?” They make you feel guilty for questioning their exhaustion: “You don’t let me rest. Maybe that’s why I feel this way.” They shut down the conversation before it starts: “I don’t have to explain why I’m tired. You’re acting crazy.”
They’re always too tired for intimacy but have energy for mysterious late-night activities. They fall into deep, convenient sleeps after coming home from somewhere. They use exhaustion to avoid answering questions or having serious conversations. Their energy levels shift depending on what they’re trying to hide.
If their exhaustion doesn’t make sense, their behavior will. Because once you start paying attention to these patterns, the truth becomes impossible to ignore.
Trust Your Instincts
If your partner’s sleep habits have suddenly changed and their excuses don’t add up, don’t ignore your instincts. Narcissists rely on confusion to manipulate you, but the moment you start seeing their patterns, their control starts to crumble. Have you noticed any of these signs?
