How to Change Your Energy
So, let’s talk real quick just about how you can change your energy.
1. Self-Awareness
Number one, you need to start having a lot more self-awareness. So, you need to understand yourself. When you’re going through all of this whether it’s a divorce or a breakup or anything the divorce, the breakup, all these things that we go through, it’s not this situation that’s supposed to break you.
It’s just supposed to, like, open you up and awaken you to the stuff that you’re supposed to be doing for yourself to get better. The first thing: is self-awareness. Start understanding all the things that are going on inside of you that have led you to this point. So, call it sitting on the therapist’s couch and, like, talking about Mom and Dad and talking about what happened when you were 14—like, let’s get it all out, and let’s even figure out just how much this has impacted you.
2. Standards and Boundaries
Number two, standards and boundaries. So now we’re going to start talking about the way it should have looked or what it should have looked like if it was perfect, healthy all those things. The only way you can have boundaries is when you start parenting yourself because if you’ve never done boundaries before, it’s going to intimidate you.
You’re going to be a little I don’t want to say put off by them you’re not going to understand the magnitude of how powerful it is to have boundaries. Yeah, it might feel great. Yep, your ego might be like, “Oh, that felt a little good,” but you don’t need it.
It’s not fair to you anymore. And when that happens, you are not a target for toxic relationships. Those people will not ever be attracted to you because they’ll know you’re not a person who can be taken advantage of, and you will not be attracted to those people because that’s just not how you are.
