Narcissists are people that lack empathy and are unable to take responsibility for their actions in life; they’ll use your feelings and emotions against you. Make you feel crazy and even Gaslight you all to get what they want. They can’t control you if you don’t let them.
Here are 10 reasons why narcissists can never control you.
Number 1: You know who you are and what you want.
Narcissists thrive on controlling their environment and everyone in it. Still, one of the best ways to maintain control is to keep people from knowing themselves, knowing who you are and what you want makes it harder for a narcissist to manipulate and control your life.
Narcissists will try to convince you that you’re worthless or untalented. Still, if you recognize these tactics for what they are, they won’t affect your life. A narcissist will try to get under your skin by making you feel like you’re doing everything wrong. They’ll tell you that your voice is too loud or too soft, that your hair looks terrible in that color.
And that the way you dress is just not right, but if none of those things matter to you then they don’t have any power over how well your days go. You don’t need anyone to give you validation because you have confidence in what you are and want.
Number 2: You have a strong sense of self-worth.
Narcissists are notorious for controlling their victims, they do this by making them feel like they don’t have a strong sense of self-worth and need to rely on the narcissist to make them feel better about themselves.
But if you have a strong sense of self-worth, you know that you’re not defined by someone else’s opinion of you and that’s something that narcissists are incapable of understanding. If narcissists can’t control your worth, they can’t control who you are.
A narcissist May tear down your self-esteem to get what they want from you. Still, if you are confident in who you are, it’ll be harder for them to manipulate your emotions.
You don’t need to feel validated by others when you have a strong sense of self-worth. And you often don’t even need to be validated by yourself; you know what you’re capable of and trust yourself to make the right decisions.
Number 3: You are independent and resourceful.
Narcissists don’t like strong and independent people; they want to control you and can only do that if you’re unable to think for yourself or are afraid of them. This is why they will often try to make you feel like you’re a helpless child who needs them to take care of things.
They want to control your every move and will do anything to make sure you depend on them for everything. Narcissists want people who will rely on them for everything and don’t want their victims to ever leave their side.
This might be done through manipulation or by making you feel like there’s something wrong with you if you don’t agree with everything they say. Suppose you can care for yourself and your needs without relying on anyone else. In that case, narcissists won’t be able to control you.
Number 4: You surround yourself with people who love and support you unconditionally.
One of the most critical signs that a narcissist can never control you is that you surround yourself with people who love and support you unconditionally. You may have been by The Narcissist to think that everyone is out to get you, but that’s not true.
Narcissists are very good at pushing people away, so it’s easy to get caught up, in believing in them. There’s a good chance they’ll try to convince you that your friends and family don’t care about you as they do. If someone truly cares about you, they won’t ask for anything in return, they’ll just care because they love you.
That kind of love can never be coerced, or manipulated by another person. If someone truly cares about you, they’ll be there through thick and thin even when it makes their lives more difficult. And if anyone tries to convince you otherwise, that’s a narcissist you’re right they’re trying to control you.
Number 5: You make choices that are right for you.
If you’re making the right choices for yourself, you don’t have to worry about a narcissist controlling you. They want to control everything around them. Narcissists get angry and frustrated when people don’t want to do what they want or act how they want.
If you’re living your life how you want to live it, then there’s nothing for them to control. They can’t manipulate you into doing what they want because they can’t make choices for themselves either. Narcissists will try to convince you that your choices are wrong or selfish.
But the truth is that narcissists don’t care about what’s good for others, they only care about themselves. Narcissists will not be happy if you make choices that don’t benefit them. They’ll try to manipulate you into thinking your choices will help them, but they will only hurt you.
Number 6: You know that your needs are important.
If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know that your needs are never critical. A narcissist will never care about what works for you or makes you happy. They only care about themselves and what they want to do and they will expect you to go along with it because they’re the ones in charge.
When you’re with a narcissist, you can feel like you don’t matter. When you’re with someone who cares about your needs, they ensure you get what you need before anything else. They don’t worry about themselves first and don’t expect anything from you in return for their kindness and generosity of spirit.
When you are with them, you know that you deserve to have your needs met and that those needs are important to discuss. Whether it’s about what you want for dinner or what kind of vacation, you want next summer.
Number 7: You don’t let anyone else make decisions for you.
If you don’t let anyone else make decisions for you, it’s a sign that the narcissist can never control you. They love to be in charge of everything, so they’re not going to just sit back and let anyone else control their lives.
They want others to be puppets they can manipulate and use however they please. Narcissists will try to control how you dress, how much money you make, who your friends are, and so on. They will try their best to get into your head and convince you that you should make all the decisions for both of you.
Narcissists want easy targets people who will let them make all the decisions and just do what they say without question. When you don’t let anyone else make decisions for you. In that case, you have all the power over what happens in your life.
Number 8: You don’t need the approval of others around you.
Narcissists constantly seek validation from others, even if it means dragging everyone else down into the mud with them. You don’t need the approval of other people around you. In that case, it means you have confidence in yourself and your abilities.
You are sure of who you are and what is important to you. This is a sign that you are in control of your life and yourself and that a narcissist can never control you. When you’re in control of your own life, you know what makes you happy and how to get there.
You don’t need someone else’s approval to tell you who you are and what makes you happy, you can always stand on your own and they can’t make you do things that don’t align with who you are.
Number 9: You say no without feeling guilty or apologizing for it.
You can’t control many things, and that’s okay. We all have to accept that there are some things that we can’t change. But the one thing you should never let anyone take from you is your ability to say no when something isn’t right for you.
Narcissists love to make their victims feel guilty about everything. So, if you can say no without feeling bad about it, they will never get the opportunity to control you, being in a relationship with a narcissist, feels like you’re always walking on eggshells.
They love to have things their way and are not afraid to use manipulation to get there. Saying no, May often is seen as rude or disrespectful. Still, to escape the narcissist’s toxicity, you must learn to stand up for yourself and say no when appropriate.
Number 10: You know how to set boundaries for yourself and hold them.
Narcissists will never respect your boundaries, they don’t care that you need time or space to breathe and do things independently. As long as they get their way, they don’t care what it takes. Suppose you know it’s okay and not okay and communicate your boundaries clearly. In that case, there’s no way a narcissist can manipulate or control you.
A narcissist will try to get you to give up your power and relationships by telling you that it’s not okay for you to have specific needs, desires, or opinions. They’ll let you know that they’ve always been the one who has held the reigns in their relationships and that they don’t want anything different now.
If you’ve been able to hold firm in the face of a narcissist’s attempts to control you, you’re free and a lot stronger than steel. Be the person that you want to be, whatever you do, do not allow your life to be taken over by a narcissist. Just remember narcissists, see you as an object and don’t care about who you are as a person.
They cannot accept that there are some things they can’t control and on top of that, they’re utterly incapable of accepting their faults and short shortcomings, so they blame others for their failures. These signs will help you realize that you have power over the narcissist’s control.
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