Number 1: They feel powerless when they fail to get you talking.
They need words coming out of your mouth, you to feel emotions, and you to keep reacting to what they do to you or what they say. They need you to let them puppeteer you, they need you to let them push your buttons. But once you stop all of that and you zip your lips, you go silent on them, that is when they go crazy.
They can’t stand it because they can’t read you, they cannot guess what’s going on and what you’re plotting against them. And the chatter they project onto you starts consuming them, which is why sometimes it can be extremely difficult to deal with a narcissist when going silent, when not giving them any responses whatsoever.
When you give them silence, they start feeling pressure in their chest, they start feeling shame all of a sudden, they can’t stand it and they start feeling like a failure. They’re the ones who are supposed to give you silent treatment, you can’t do that to them. No, they have to have the upper hand.
So when you stop reacting, when you give them your silence, that is when they actually lose and then they try other ways to regain control, they push you left, right, and center. But silence is what they can’t stand for, silence means the absence of emotions for them.
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