More and more people find out every day that they are friends, parents, spouses, etc., with a toxic person. But what should you do if you think you’re dealing with a narcissist? They will do anything, no matter the cost, to improve their image. This could include complimenting someone and pretending to be close to them to make them seem more important.
You may have realized later that narcissists have a cold, icy air about them. Having to spend a lot of time with them is unpleasant. They don’t want anyone to see through their self-centered masks, and they always try hard to show that they are better or worse than the masses, even though they have nothing to offer. People, who are close to them, are the only ones who can see them as they really are, and even then, it takes a while.
The first people to find out about their lies are their closest friends and family. When you realize that your interactions are being driven by an insatiable narcissist, you need to take a different approach. That means you won’t be able to keep talking to them the same way. If they chose to do this, it would only hurt and disappoint them.
I also want to stress that it doesn’t help to love a narcissist in the hopes that they will change. You might find that tough love helps you deal with narcissists, but it won’t work if the narcissist is an adult because scolding a narcissist will only make them angry, which will make things even worse.
They don’t like being told no or getting in trouble because they don’t like being criticized. They can’t see anything but the problem is you because narcissists are always looking for new people to control and dominate. Your reputation will get worse much more quickly, and people will forget about you.
So, I think this will help them more than it will help you. To change a narcissist, you need more than just tough love. When you think back to the first few days or weeks, you may be devastated when you realize you’re dealing with a narcissist. You start to think about the time you wasted loving someone who didn’t feel the same way about you.
You may keep asking yourself, “What the heck am I supposed to do now?” It’s easy for things to get out of hand, especially when there are kids involved. At that point in life when everything starts to make sense, it’s probably the most important thing that can happen. Think about that for a minute, and you’ll see how everything works. Putting the pieces of the puzzle together will be a relief. It really is too much, but the best time to act is when you know what you’re up against.
Now is the most important time to come up with a plan for how to deal with the situation or how to avoid the narcissist. If you tell the narcissist what you’ve been up to, they won’t be happy. It would be best not to tell them what you’re doing, whether you’re going no contact, ignoring them, or just turning off your emotional faucet.
If you have to say something, wait until all the arrangements for your leaving have been made before you say anything. Also, keep in mind that there is no point in trying to explain to a narcissist why they are narcissistic. Some people have never heard the phrase, and even if they have, they will try to make you look like a poisonous person.
Even if they know the word, narcissists don’t care what other people think about them because they think that what they do is neither good nor bad. Your only action will be to show them your hand, which they will use to their advantage. This is not a good idea, even if it is possible that these are your last words before you die. Before You Die,
I wouldn’t say anything in the hopes that the narcissist will realize they were wrong, apologize, and make things right. In this case, nothing like that will happen. Once you find out that someone is narcissistic, you shouldn’t tell them how much pain they’ve caused you. If anything, it would give them pleasure and a sense of success to know that they were able to hurt you so much.
They won’t be made to feel the least bit bad about themselves. Keep in mind that narcissists don’t care about you, even if they seem nice. They like how much pain you’re giving them. When you know you’re dealing with a narcissist, don’t tell them you’re aware of how they act or that you’re planning to leave. You’ve already admitted that the narcissist won’t help you move on with your life, so there’s nothing else to say. You should tell as little as possible about yourself to a narcissist.
The narcissist will try anything to make you feel something. If you answer, the narcissist will feel more confident that they can control you. They are more likely to push these buttons because it makes them feel like they still have an emotional stake in the situation. As soon as you can, cut off all ties with the narcissist.
Pay more attention to your mental and physical health. The more we spend time with narcissists, the worse it is for us long-term. If we decide to pay more attention to ourselves and less attention to the narcissist, it can make a big difference.
When we realize that the narcissist doesn’t deserve our love or attention, we stop worrying about what other people think of us. Narcissistic relationships can last for months, years, or even decades, and knowing that you were in one can be stressful. But it’s also an opportunity to get your freedom and happiness back.
It doesn’t help to stick your head in the sand or hold on to the hope that things will get better. Neither of these ideas is worth your time. If you don’t decide to be responsible for what you do, nothing else will change.
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