Have you ever wondered what narcissistic people do when you go no contact with them? Do they miss you? Wonder where you are or even care about the truth that you’ve cut the connection with them? Narcissists are masters of manipulation, which means that when you go no contact, they will do everything in their power to get back into your life.
Here are 7 things narcissists will do when you go no contact:
Number 1: Narcissists get very angry and frustrated.
They get very angry and frustrated when you go no contact, they don’t like it when someone doesn’t want them or feels they’re not in control of their relationship. Narcissists are so used to getting their way in everything. So, if they want something from you, they’ll do whatever it takes to get it.
And once you’ve given them what they want, they are done with you. Narcissists don’t care about the damage they cause or how much pain they inflict on other people, they don’t care about anyone but themselves. That’s how it works for them; they may become more aggressive or even violent toward you when you go no contact with them.
Narcissists get very angry and frustrated when you reject their advances and push back against their attempts to control your life or manipulate your emotions. This is because this isn’t what they expected. They feel rejected, and let their power over you have been taken away.
Number 2: Narcissists will protect their feelings and blame you for how they feel.
They will project their feelings and blame you for how they feel. They do this because they don’t want to be responsible for their emotions, so they blame others for what is happening inside them. By doing this they set themselves up as victims, which allows them to play the role of hero.
This makes them feel justified in doing whatever it takes to get back at you. Narcissists are masters of manipulation and control, they notice what buttons to push on other people to get what they want. The narcissist will say: “You made me feel this way”.
Narcissists ensure that you take responsibility for them, even though they are at fault. They will also accuse you of doing things that they have done. Narcissists will never admit they’ve done wrong because they only want to see things from their perspective.
Number 3: Narcissists will try to get back at you by spreading false stories and rumors.
Narcissists need control and attention, so they often find ways to get back at you when you cut off contact with one. One popular way they do this is by spreading rumors about you. The narcissist may tell people that you’re crazy or dangerous or just trying to revenge on them.
They can be very vindictive and will not hesitate to spread lies about you. Narcissists may even try to convince others that you are the one who was abusive, not them. Narcissists may even make up a rumor about how you cheated on them or stole from them, they may tell people how manipulative you are, or even claim you have a sexually transmitted disease.
These lies can be very damaging to your reputation. This is why keeping your distance from a narcissist after ending a relationship or cutting off a connection is important. Otherwise, narcissists can always use their connections with others to get back at you in extremely difficult ways to disprove.
Number 4: Narcissists who tried to guilt-trip you into talking to them again.
If you go no contact with a narcissist, they’ll do everything in their power to get back in touch with you. This is to continue to manipulate and control you. Narcissists may do this by sending long texts about how much they miss you or how sorry they are for all the pain they’ve caused.
Narcissists might even try to convince you that their behavior wasn’t intentional and promised that things will be different next time. They say things like: “You don’t love me anymore”. Or “I was going through a rough time and needed some space, but now I feel like we can start over again”.
Narcissists are incapable of feeling love or comparison toward anyone other than themselves, so there’s no point in talking it out with them. The truth about narcissists is that they don’t feel anything for anyone. Still, themselves so talking about how sorry they are isn’t going to change anything.
It’s another way for them to ensure that their needs are met at your expense. You’ll never be able to change their behavior by doing so because they don’t want to change, to begin with.
Number 5: Narcissists will try to lure you back in.
When you go no contact, it can be hard not to fall over the narcissist’s tricks again. After all, you’re used to being lied to by them, manipulated by them, and treated like trash. When you break off contact with a narcissist, they will likely try to lure you back in, they’re like a spider waiting for their prey.
Narcissists tell you they miss you, need you, and are sorry for whatever they did to upset you, they’ll lure you back in with Promises of change, or even emotional manipulation. Narcissists know that the more time you spend together, the easier it will be for them to get back into your good graces.
They are known for manipulating people into doing what they want and getting what they need. When you go no contact with a narcissist, do not give in. If you give in and let them come back into your life after going no contact with them, chances are pretty good that things won’t get better; they’ll surely get worse as time goes on.
Number 6: Narcissists will play the victim.
They are experts at manipulating people in situations to their advantage. When you go no contact, they’ll have to work harder to get what they want. Narcissists will often play the victim, that way, it looks like you’re the one who did something wrong. They’ll tell you that you abandoned them, that you’ve hurt them by not responding, or that your silence makes them feel isolated and unloved.
They might even try to make you feel guilty for ignoring them. Narcissists are very good at making people feel bad about themselves, so don’t let their tactics get to you. They have a deep-seated need to be seen as victims by everyone around them.
They’ll try to turn your friends and family against you, they may send them messages or emails asking for help or telling them you’re abusive. Narcissists will also try to get other people involved in their dramas so that you look bad in comparison.
Number 7: Narcissists will make up excuses to get in touch with you.
They are master manipulators who will use any opportunity to get what they want. When you go no contact, they’ll try to make excuses to get in touch with you. This could be anything from a sudden change of heart to an emergency. It could be hard to say no when they ask for help if you’re still emotionally invested in their relationship.
It’s important to remember that even if the request is reasonable, it’s still not okay for them to contact you without your consent. Narcissists are controlling, even if you’re trying to cut them out of your life, they may try to get back into it by coming up with reasons why they should remain a part of it. They’ll say “I’m sorry that things ended between us, but I think we could still be friends”. “I need help moving this weekend”. Or “Can we meet for coffee”?
Narcissists don’t want anything from you, they just want to maintain control over your emotion and manipulate you into feeling guilty. They thrive on attention and validation. When someone leaves and goes no contact with them, they feel abandoned and unloved. This makes them feel like they are not good enough, which all narcissists constantly struggle with.
When you cut off communication with them, they simply take it as a personal rejection. Although at first, they may try to persuade you to reconsider, if you stick to your decision, the narcissists will stop attempting to get in touch with you and move to get their new supply.
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