Narcissistic relationships are exhausting, painful, and confusing. They wreak havoc on people’s lives and leave shattered hearts, broken homes, and affinities in their wake. If you are a narcissistic victim, you’ve probably noticed that your relationships suffer.
They can seem like the perfect Partners to you at first, but the truth is that narcissists are destructive to your relationships in many ways. You have trouble trusting people, feeling loved and cared for, and communicating openly.
Read until the end as I expose to you 10 ways narcissists destroy your relationships. Learn from this and hopefully, you can prevent it from happening.
Number 1: Narcissists lie to you about almost everything.
They make you believe they are the most powerful, kind, and generous people. Well, they might be, but only because they’re lying to you. They want to ensure they can keep up the act of being a great person in front of everyone else.
Narcissists will often lie about their accomplishments, past relationship, and even their intentions toward you, they will tell you what they think will make you happy, or what they think you want here even if it’s false. Narcissists lie to you about almost everything, they’ll tell you that they love you, but they don’t.
They’ll say they want to spend more time with you, but they’re too busy for you. Narcissists say they care about your feelings, but really, they don’t. It’s easy to get caught up in their lives. After all, who wouldn’t want someone who says all the right things? But if you’re wondering how narcissists destroy your relationships, look no further than their lies.
Number 2: Narcissists blame you for their problems.
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you have probably experienced this; they still make it seem like all of their problems are your fault. It doesn’t matter if they cheated on you, stole from your bank account, or lied about something. It should always appear that it’s always your fault.
Narcissists are self-centered individuals; they’ll constantly blame you for their problems even when it’s clear that you’re not to blame, they’ll always have a way of making things your fault. Also, if narcissists are feeling insecure, you didn’t compliment them enough.
If they are having trouble at work, you didn’t give them the right advice. And if they argued with their friend, it was because you were jealous of that friend and made them upset. You’ll probably constantly apologize for things that are not your fault in your relationship.
Number 3: Narcissists decrease your self-esteem by making you feel unworthy.
They are known for their inability to see other people for who they are. Narcissists don’t value other people’s opinions or feelings; they certainly don’t care about yours. They make others feel like they’re nothing like they’re worthless and incapable of making decisions on their own.
With this, it can be hard to find the strength to leave, because they make you feel like you don’t deserve anything better, than what they give you. In the end, narcissists destroy your self-esteem by making you feel unworthy.
Number 4: Narcissists take control of your life.
They don’t just want to be in relationships with you, they want to be in control of every aspect of your life, they want to know where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing. Narcissists want to dictate how much time you spend with others, and how much you spend with them.
Your needs and wants will always come second to theirs. Narcissists will try to create an environment, where you only think about what they want and how they feel. They will try to make everything about them, or get help from anyone else.
They want to dominate your life and do whatever they can to ensure you’re under their thumb. They’ll take over your finances, career, and hobbies if they have the opportunity. Narcissists want to decide what you do with every single minute of your day.
Number 5: Narcissists make false promises.
They can be very charming and know how to say the right things at the right time, they may tell you they want a long-term relationship with you, or to settle down and start a family with you. A narcissist will just use your relationship as a means to an end.
They are not loyal to anyone but themselves, so they will always take advantage of you, while they have the chance. They trick you by making false promises, they’ll promise you the world and when you give them power, they destroy everything that was once special in your life.
Narcissists May promise that they’ll be better, but they never are. And if you try to hold them accountable, they’ll just blame it on something else. Be careful confronting narcissists about their broken promises, they may become defensive or lash out at you.
Number 6: Narcissists leave you isolated.
Suppose you are in a relationship with a narcissist, they don’t want interference and their relationships with other people. In that case, they ensure you have no friends or family members around that could support or help you.
When your partner is a narcissist, it’s not just your relationship that suffers. It’s also, your social life, family relationships, and other connections to the outside world. Narcissists thrive on power; they tend to destroy those who love those most, their loved ones.
They can be so controlling that they isolate their partners from any support system they might have. Leaving them alone with the narcissist, they do everything they can to cut you off from other people, they may use jealousy as a tool, or be so emotionally abusive that you don’t feel safe reaching out to others.
Number 7: Narcissists destroy your confidence.
They destroy your relationship by destroying your confidence too. They will always find something wrong with you and ensure you know it, they’ll tell you that your hair looks horrible, or that your workout clothes aren’t flattering enough.
Narcissists do it in front of other people, so you look even worse than they think you already do. Your confidence is one of the most essential parts of your relationship. How can you be confident in your relationship if you’re not confident in yourself? How can you trust your partner if you don’t believe in yourself?
They will tear down every good thing about you, and make you feel like nothing compared to them. Worst case, they may also try to convince you that no one else would want to be in a relationship with someone like you.
Number 8: Narcissists won’t take responsibility for their actions.
When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may notice that they tend to blame everyone else for their problems. In addition, they often deflect responsibility onto others by saying things like “If only my parents hadn’t maltreated me when I was younger”, or “If only my partner wasn’t so stubborn”.
And they also, tend to make excuses for their behavior, by blaming their actions on you. They never take responsibility for their actions, which makes it difficult to move on from them.
This is a common trait of narcissists, and it can devastate your relationship. If they don’t break up with you, they’ll tell you it’s because you weren’t good enough, or because they don’t have time for a relationship.
Number 9: Narcissists will Gaslight You by denying reality.
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that causes victims to question their sanity. It can be tough to recognize when you’re experiencing it. Common signs would include your constantly second-guessing yourself, and doubting your judgment.
You feel like you’re always walking on eggshells around them because they get so upset over small things. This is a very effective form of manipulation because it makes you question your sanity. The Narcissist will tell you that your memory is wrong; that what happened was not their fault, or that it didn’t happen.
The more they do this, the more confused and uncertain you’ll feel about what happened and what they remember. You’ll start to doubt yourself and wonder if you’re going insane.
Number 10: Narcissists will leave you with emotional scars from abuse.
They destroy relationships by using people for their gain and discarding them when they are no longer useful. Aside from being verbally and physically abusive, they are known for being emotionally abusive. The abuse they leave creates lasting scars, making it difficult to trust others in the future.
Narcissistic abuse can be hard to recognize because it’s often disguised as love. Aside from the severe impact, this could create on relationships with other people, it may even cause depression. You’ll start to believe that being treated poorly is normal, especially if you’ve been conditioned by the abuser to think any feelings other than those of adoration are unacceptable.
It’s crucial to remember that you are not responsible for someone else’s behavior and that you can control how other people treat you. You are only responsible for yourself, and how you react to these difficult situations. Remember that you deserve a healthy, loving relationship, where your partner treats you well.
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