Number 4: When you go silent on a narcissist, they feel insulted.
When you go silent on a narcissist, they feel insulted. Narcissists demand respect, no matter how they treat you, they want you to bow before them, they want you to act like a doormat, they want you to greet them every morning with a smile on your face, they want you to look at them and be subservient, be compliant. But when you start going silent when you stop responding to them when you stop acting like a puppet because they treat you like one, they feel insulted, their narcissistic self is extremely fragile and it gets injured.
To take revenge, they punish you by giving you more silence or by taking away things that you need for your survival. I’m talking about a scenario between a narcissistic parent and a child. I was never allowed to stay silent as a child. It’s quite natural to not want to respond or talk to the person who is constantly abusing you. It’s not just a small fight, it’s something that you cannot tolerate and you can’t escape.
So to show some rebellion, I would not respond immediately and if I did that, he would rage and come towards me, like a raging bull, to just lift me on his horns and tear me apart. Silence always meant physical abuse, you would get hit if you did not or do not respond immediately. That’s how it was in my home, that’s what I grew up around. Silence sometimes is not an option because silence, to a narcissistic parent, means defiance of the child or the partner.
Number 5: Silence means sanity.
They know if they give you space, if they let you be silent, you will start thinking and they don’t want you to keep thinking, they want you to just listen and do what they want you to do. They want you to act robotic. They know if they let you be, you will start feeling things and that might override your cognitive dissonance, the confusion, is he bad? Is she bad? Maybe she is not.
In someone, the inner splitting, maybe you will see through them, maybe you will understand, maybe you will find out who you are dealing with. They want you to keep running, as I said, they want you to keep walking on eggshells, they want you to stay hyper-vigilant and when you’re hyper-vigilant, the chatter goes on from them as well as in your brain.
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They don’t want to take any chances, no, they want to keep consuming you all the time, 24/7, so that your head stays where it should be according to them. They also know if you bring it back to yourself, if you gain access to your self-agency, they will lose because you will realize that they are not as great as they make themselves to be or they are not as innocent as they say they are and you’re not as guilty as they blame you to be.
Silence sometimes can be freeing but only for you, for a narcissist, these are the most horrible chains, the strongest chains they can ever get stuck in.
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